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question author 3 hours тому: «Доповнення: Я не стала зупиняти його і ми зайнялися сексом. Мені було боляче, але крові не було. Через це я переживаю, що хлопець може подумати, що я його обманула, коли сказал»
Олена Іванівна Садова (Чубова)
Олена Іванівна Садова (Чубова) 4 hours тому: «Юля, вітаю. Дякую, що так щиро розповіли про свій життєвий шлях у стосунках. Як психотерапевт, який працює з життєвим сценарієм людини, точно можу сказати, що ситуаціі які однако»
Олена Іванівна Садова (Чубова)
Олена Іванівна Садова (Чубова) 4 hours тому: «Дорогая, emisu. Очень жаль, что вам приходится иногда переживать такие сложные чувства. В такие минуты было бы здорово разделить это с кем-то кому вы доверяете. Можете вы с кем-то»
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Shame

Steve McQueen

залежності алекситимія нарушение идентичности
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Iryna Chekhova

Donetsk, Ukraine

You are reading a translation. Original version: RU

ShameA brilliant illustration of the theory of emotional deafness, blindness, and "muteness."

The essence of the theory is roughly as follows. Environmental influences cause a person to experience a certain tension, which we can recognize as a physical sensation. Initially, this sensation has no meaning. The person then assigns meaning to it. Depending on the meaning they attribute to their physical sensations, an emotion is identified, which is then expressed accordingly.

Everything would be fine if, from childhood, a person had the experience of assigning meaning and adequately expressing emotions (which is a sign of maturity and mental health).

If such experience is lacking, any physical sensation (tension) is perceived by the person in their own, often inadequate way. For example, as in this film, any tension that could have become an emotion (tenderness, sadness, resentment, anger, fear) is identified as sexual arousal and discharged in accordance with that meaning. Such discharge usually does not bring satisfaction because the wrong emotion was expressed (for example, what grimace did the film’s protagonist make during the threesome?).

Of course, one can only speculate about the life paths that led the main character to such a detachment from their own emotionality. But one thing is certain—it stems from a lack of interested support from adults during childhood.

Therapy for such clients is long and complex.

And the therapist in such therapy will experience all the feelings that we, as viewers, felt toward this character.

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I decided that this is exactly what sex addiction looks like.
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I think the director showed another line here. A semi-transparent hint at possible (in the heroes' fantasy) incestuous relationships between the main hero and his sister. For the main hero, the concepts of sex and closeness are separated because he can only have sex with someone with whom close relations are impossible and vice versa.
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