Confusing man

What you’ve written suggests that the man in question is a manipulator, a narcissist, or an abuser.

These types of men often keep women on an emotional rollercoaster, alternating between attention and neglect.

From the very beginning, he didn’t see the relationship as meaningful. He plays on emotions, says kind words, and gives compliments only to get what he wants—namely, to become interesting to you. Once he achieves that, he disappears, only to resurface periodically to check if you’re still ‘hooked.’

This kind of interaction is dangerous: it can devolve into a relationship where everything revolves around flirting or intimacy, but only when it suits him.

Don’t expect him to change, fall in love, or commit later on.

If he’s stopped taking the initiative, don’t try to ‘wake him up’ or win him back. Your time and emotions are more valuable than that. Instead of asking why he’s no longer interested in you, focus on yourself: take up a sport, find a new hobby, or spend time with friends.

Love begins with self-respect, so it’s important to choose people who choose you.

Remember: actions speak louder than words, so don’t let pretty promises obscure reality.

A man who is truly interested will prove it through his actions. And he will definitely appear in your life once you stop wasting your energy on manipulators and learn to set personal boundaries.

Hello, Kateryna!

This situation really unsettles me.

Because I like him too much.

Based on your words, here’s the connection I’ve drawn. You like this man, including his ambiguity, his passive way of showing attention toward you, and perhaps the fact that he’s used you to meet his own needs.

So instead of asking

what to do or how to act

, it might be more useful to turn the question inward—why do I keep falling for someone so strange, someone who has already disappeared multiple times after getting what they wanted from me?

Consider taking a few sessions with a psychologist to explore why you’re drawn to someone who doesn’t care about you. How can you rebuild your sense of self-worth and set personal boundaries early in relationships with men?